Bright Greetings Dear Ones,
It is a joy to connect with you again. I am sending loving and healing energy to each of you each and everyday. If you have not requested being added to my Healing List, which I activate twice daily, please do so in our next consultation.
In my 45 years of doing this work, and having worked with in both the capacity as an Intuitive and Ordained Reverend, I have had the blessing of working with individuals and couples stuck in dead end relationships. While there have been romantic partnerships that have stood the test of time, it is because both parties are/were 100% committed to making it work. Without this commitment to staying a healthy and happy couple, you may well be at the "should I try to work it out or walk away" threshold.
Cardinal signs it is time to leave:
*The longer you are in the relationship, the more conditional it becomes: This is especially true if you are dating a narcissist. If you can make a list of their do's and don'ts, where you will get be berated or judged, then it is time to walk away. Please be aware that there are steps to leaving a narcissist for your own well being, and especially if there are children or furbabies involved.
*You are living with a work-a-holic: Living with someone that puts the majority of the energy and passion into their career, and having home base as the place where they sleep, eat, shower, and use an their home office, does not a relationship make. If you have talked to them about it, and taken deep measures to rectify your marriage/relationship, and are still on the back burner, it is time to leave. In a healthy pairing, they will save that something extra just for the two of you, and the relationship will have the platform to be lovingly reciprocal.
*There is chronic infidelity: When the passion has been outsourced in your relationship, and all you have left is who will pick up the gallon of milk, then you have reached an impasse. Infidelity can be both emotional and physical. If your partner is talking to or spending more time with them (perhaps it is a work relationship in which they met),and finding reasons to be away from home more often, then it can indicate that an emotional affair is moving towards the physical manifestation. If there are children, pets, or shared property involved, please strategize carefully before letting them know you are leaving.
*You no longer are physically affectionate: I cannot tell you how many times I have heard one of the partners in a romantic pairing downplay the importance of being intimate. Holding hands,cuddling, kissing, making love, trading shoulder or foot massages, or scrubbing each other';s backs in the shower, keep that bond of love and connection strong. In my own family tree, my Aunts and Uncles were married over 50 years and happily. They were sweethearts their entire marriage through, holding hands, kissing, hugging, and saving tenderness for each other. The end to affection is often the precursor to cheating, and the death knell to the relationship.
*Your romantic partner begins to spotlight definitions between yours and theirs: Your paycheck, their family heirloom, your mess, your laundry,my brother, or whom has ownership. This is one of the first indicators that it is time to leave the relationship before it implodes or deflates. Chances are you have stayed in the relationship for the sake of the kids, financial security, or simply because it is easier to stay than starting over.
*You dread seeing them come home: If you are glad to see them leave, but dread seeing them come home, it is time to re-evaluate your reasons for staying together. As we spotlighted in the previous point, there are many reasons for staying, but it is the right situation for you?
*You are in an abusive relationship: Whether it is verbal, emotional, or physical, there is no reason for cruelty. It causes great harm to your self-worth, isolates you from your friends and family from a sense of shame, and disempowers you. Please take care in how you leave this relationship and do consult professionals in the subject to plan your exit strategy.
*You no longer communicate unless by necessity: If you only communicate about taking out the trash, who will pick the kids up from school, or who will make dinner or pick up the take away food, then you might as well be roommates! Loving communication is one of the pillars of a healthy pairing. If that has gone by the wayside, and you have done everything within reason to get things on track, it may be time to walk away and start over on your own.
*You have fights that seem to come from nowhere: If this is happening, there are deeper issues that are at play, it is rarely about the topic in which you are arguing. If this is happening a significant amount of your time together, it may be time to step away.
3 or more of these points, and I do suggest that you seek counseling either to rectify the relationship, or to walk away from it with as peacefully as possible.
If you have decided to walk away, please refrain from rebounding right into dating, or another relationship. You will need time to heal from this one, there will be feelings to process and sort through, b e f o r e you glide into the next relationship. If you do not assess, you do run the risk of being a serial dater with one unhappy pairing after the next. It is all too frequent that they will have the same basic personality of the person with whom you have ended your relationship. Learn to be happy being single, and to see life through your own eyes, rather than the goggles of being in an unhappy partnership.
Dear Ones, you are meant to live a vibrant, healthy, abundant, and joyful life! You are meant to shine as the best version of yourself. When you have people in your life, that are constantly taking, or depleting your energy, you cannot invest in your own growth and health. Find that balance of body, mind, and spirit Dear Ones, prior to dating again.You can have your life back and better than it was before.
Thank you for sharing this time together. I hope that you are feeling empowered, inspired, and encouraged.
I love you and I believe in you!
In Divine Love,