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Dear Garden Oracle,
Most people seem to love Valentine's Day. It has always been a hard day for me, for I seem to be single every Valentine's Day.
I want to bypass the entire holiday! Everywhere I look, I see a counters and displays full of cards, chocolates, and gifts and it makes me more aware of what I will not be getting. Again.
I feel like I should just be able to blow this day off, but this year it feels harder to do that.
What can I do?
Thank you for your email. I am so sorry that this is a rough time for you. It is for the majority of the people around you, too.
This is a holiday created by corporate America. Hallmark, and the retail businesses sell more cards on Mother's Day and on Valentine's Day that any other days of the year! While it does stimulate the economy, it leaves singles, widows/widowers, and even paired people feeling flat.
There are only a few that get the chocolates, flowers, cards, romantic dinners, marriage proposals, and adorations from their romantic partner.
One little holiday does not determine whether of not you are loved, for you are! One holiday cannot make up for loving and reciprocal relationships the other 364 days a year. Real love is not simply from a romantic pairing, but from your friends and family who love and cherish you. If each of us were to see the countless gifts around us, we would see a kind word here, or someone letting you merge in traffic during rush hour, or even a cheerful greeting, we would realize that love is within and around us.
I wish for you Dear One, a partner who will see everyday of the year as Valentine's Day and celebrate each day that you are together. Many men and women (the field is equal here), will make a big deal out of Valentine's Day to make up for what they haven't done the rest of the year!
I have gotten in the habit of sending out cards and letters to the kids, placing loving notes in my husband's wallet or pocket for him to find, and letting the people that I love know 365 days a year how much I appreciate having them in my life. While I do get them cards, it is because I do this frequently already.
Dearest VB, will you be my Valentine? I love you and I believe in you. There is only one of you in this entire Universe and you are loved, appreciated, and respected. I recognize your beauty and light.
In Divine Love,