Dear Garden Oracle,
I had a friend ask me to take find some information and post it to social media for them. I did exactly as they asked, which they do acknowledge, but they are chewing me out for doing what they asked of me! Even though it was exactly what they wanted and they approved it, they are angry now.
I get an angry message today to delete the very information they begged me to post. I am angry, hurt, and feeling like cultivating friendship is a negative thing. This is a friend that I have only had since late last year and I regret having put the energy into it that I have. Do I keep them as a friend, tell them how I feel, or how do I process this. I feel like a doormat.
-Doormat Girl
Dearest DG,
Thank you for your email. I can feel your anger and frustration regarding the issue of this friendship. I am so sorry that you are feeling so badly.
I sense that you would have done anything to get the approval of this friend for your own validation as a person. So while their reaction was highly inappropriate and immature, the deeper issue is why you needed their approval. Loneliness is a strong motivator for friendship, even if the friendship is toxic to you. Make peace with yourself, Dear Heart, and let the immature actions and words of this "friend" roll off your back. Plain and simple: Do not accept their assignment of guilt simply because they changed their mind!
Put your energy into the relationships that are reciprocal in a positive way, Dear One. Step away from negative reinforcement and into positive reinforcement. Breathe, walk, journal, but get this out of your system.
Everyone reading this has felt this sometime or another in their lives and empathizes. You are not the victim, you are stronger than you know.
Take this negative experience and learn from it. What Wisdom have you gleaned from this "friend?"
How can you apply this Wisdom to future scenarios?
Spirit is saying to please choose more wisely, and hold off investing yourself until you see or know their true character.
Fill your life with people that love, like, and respect you.
Keep your chin up, you are in the clear. Walk away from this "fake friend" who only wants to use you for what their own needs and as a scapegoat. No experience is ever a waste, Dear Heart. You have grown and evolved past this already.
In Divine Love,
Razzi <3
I had a friend ask me to take find some information and post it to social media for them. I did exactly as they asked, which they do acknowledge, but they are chewing me out for doing what they asked of me! Even though it was exactly what they wanted and they approved it, they are angry now.
I get an angry message today to delete the very information they begged me to post. I am angry, hurt, and feeling like cultivating friendship is a negative thing. This is a friend that I have only had since late last year and I regret having put the energy into it that I have. Do I keep them as a friend, tell them how I feel, or how do I process this. I feel like a doormat.
-Doormat Girl
Dearest DG,
Thank you for your email. I can feel your anger and frustration regarding the issue of this friendship. I am so sorry that you are feeling so badly.
I sense that you would have done anything to get the approval of this friend for your own validation as a person. So while their reaction was highly inappropriate and immature, the deeper issue is why you needed their approval. Loneliness is a strong motivator for friendship, even if the friendship is toxic to you. Make peace with yourself, Dear Heart, and let the immature actions and words of this "friend" roll off your back. Plain and simple: Do not accept their assignment of guilt simply because they changed their mind!
Put your energy into the relationships that are reciprocal in a positive way, Dear One. Step away from negative reinforcement and into positive reinforcement. Breathe, walk, journal, but get this out of your system.
Everyone reading this has felt this sometime or another in their lives and empathizes. You are not the victim, you are stronger than you know.
Take this negative experience and learn from it. What Wisdom have you gleaned from this "friend?"
How can you apply this Wisdom to future scenarios?
Spirit is saying to please choose more wisely, and hold off investing yourself until you see or know their true character.
Fill your life with people that love, like, and respect you.
Keep your chin up, you are in the clear. Walk away from this "fake friend" who only wants to use you for what their own needs and as a scapegoat. No experience is ever a waste, Dear Heart. You have grown and evolved past this already.
In Divine Love,
Razzi <3
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