Healthy Romantic Relationships
Romance is the most asked about topic in any psychic's readings.
I have many friends in this field and roughly 80 -85% of our reading pertain to love and romance. Out of the 80 - 85%, 80% are women, ranging in age from 22 - 75, calling to find out the why and the when of their relationships, or lack thereof.
Manipulating someone into loving you or moving forward usually does not stick, and can often backfire. That is the reason that most love spells are not successful, for the person utilizing it does not think about all the nuances when it is done out of fear, anxiety, and insecurity.
We have all had that friend, that has one broken and failed relationship after another. They will call and ask "What do you think?" "Do you think they love me?" "Do you think they are serious about me?" " Do they want to marry me?" "Do you think their friends like me?" After a few of these calls you might find yourself letting their messages go to voicemail, or their text messages go unanswered. Their very neediness drives a deep wedge in your friendship and you simply cannot deal with it anymore.
Firstly, the Divine discourages you from forcing limiting timelines based on your fears, anxieties, and insecurities.
Secondly, be in charge of yourself. Stand in your confidence, authenticity, and understanding that you cannot control another's feelings, responses, and lifestyle. Most especially a potential romantic partner's feelings and circumstances.
Thirdly, feelings are not logical! They are not based on fact, but on how you are feeling from moment to moment. They are fluid, not a fixed reality. It is illogical to assume that feelings are predictable.
I have had women in the 30's to 60's, and a few men, too, that have successful careers, leading in their chosen fields, and are deeply insecure and anxious when it comes to love and romance.
Why won't he call?
Why doesn't she love me, I have given all that I can to her?
When will he call me?
Am I not good enough to be offered consideration?
Why am I not a priority?
When will I meet their family?
Why did they break up with me when (I thought) things were going so well?
Why are we fighting so much?
Why would he/she cheat on me?
Do they find me attractive?
Why do they disappear for days or weeks at a time without contacting me?
We have been together for years, and are no closer to marriage..WHY?
Why, why, when, when???
The better questions to ask the Divine:
Is this the right person for me?
Why am I wasting my time on a non-reciprocal relationship?
What do I need to be doing to fulfill my soul's purpose?
Where do I need to be focusing my time and energy?
What are my inherent gifts and talents? How can I cultivate them?
Am I comfortable being alone or do I need to be in a relationship?
It breaks my heart to hear story after story of unrequited love. Most of them based on the fairy tale, rather than the reality of the situation. A mythology gets created out of a desperation to hear or manifest that script that you want to hear. There is the energy of recreating or editing your romantic or relationship history with the object of your affection. When it comes to affairs, the mythology is even more deeply etched. He/she swears they are leaving their wife/husband for me, I know we are meant to be together! The reality is more often than not, that the wandering spouse stays in the marriage, and the person on the outside hoping that they will leave, is heart broken.
I know that as a reader of many years, that the reality is that under 5% of the relationships based on affairs will last and be healthy. The other 95%, as I have observed, do struggle for the duration of their time together. This is why, in my estimation, based on the statistics from my work of 43 years, that we have such a high divorce rate and serial daters.
A serial dater is someone who is ending one relationship and is another before the ink has even dried from the last break up!
Unless you are willing to recognize and overcome this, you are likely to repeat it. There is a fear of being alone, even if it means settling for a relationship in which you are unhappy and feel unfulfilled.
If you start a foundation based on a lie, that is the foundation that you have established for that relationship. You would not pour the foundation of a new home with poor quality cement, nor frame, for it will not be strong enough to survive the storms that come along in your life together.
One of my friends has one of the strongest relationships that I have ever seen. She is positive, loving, strong, and holds absolute faith and belief in her family and her marriage of over 30 years. During this time, her husband had a life changing illness which has left him incapacitated and unable to work. She was taking care of him and raising two kids, by herself. She has worked 2, frequently 3 jobs just to support her family, and sometimes just by a thread! But her personal conviction and belief in her family has born positive results. Both of her kids are on their way to getting their post graduate degrees. She is one of the happiest women that I am blessed to know and has inspired me for years.
Had she and her husband not had a strong foundation, they might not have weathered the disabling physical circumstance, nor been able to have a healthy family life.
Dear Ones, the Divine asks you to stop asking WHEN WHEN WHEN WHEN and WHY WHY WHY WHY???
Ask for the Wisdom and the Clarity to see your life clearly, ask if you are on the right path, ask if you are utilizing your inherent gifts, ask for Divine Truth! When Spirit answers, please listen, stop justifying and writing your own mythology, and offer gratitude for the enlightenment you have received.
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