(This message came through today so powerfully that I had to stop and write it down.)
Spirit Blossoms was founded by a woman, and is essentially dedicated to the powerful and intuitive women in my family. My passion is directly in alignment with the Womens' Minitistries that I have chosen to cultivate. Spirit Blossom's was cultivated by a belief that we can inspire and empower one another, through our example, actions, and words being in alignment.
As woman in an aging body, with the stereotypical attractive female being in the 20- 30 range, it was never addressed by the women in my family what it was like to age and feel desireable.
We did talk about hear about menstrual cycles, dating, waiting for marriage to have sex, getting our college degrees so that we could support ourselves if and when our husband's died or left us for a younger and more attractive woman, but we were never talked to about aging.
A woman comes into her sexual prime later in life while a man's is not much past his teenage years. I look at the magazine covers with models that are an A to a C cup, are perfectly put together, and the very omission of the aging woman can create feelings of "I am no longer attractive."
I love the laugh lines in our faces, I love the imperfection of a woman's that has had beautiful children, I love the WISDOM that comes with age (and ONLY with age), I love to say to a sister "you are better now than you were a year ago, I adore you."
It is up to us ladies to support, nurture, uplift, and encourage each other. It will not come in the way that we need, ever, from the male sector of the population. As women, we understand that we do not have to accept the assignment of pop culture and trends. As a woman in her 50's, I have seen trends come and go, and that is represented in my closet!
As women we need to remind each other that being anxious over a romantic relationship is foolish. I ask every woman that is a 40 + and in a non-reciprocal relationship "why are you still in it?"
Our vitality as women can be put to much better use that giving our energy to a romantic affiliation, at this point, they do need to be easier. When I work with amazing women, successful women, that are asking, "Why doesn't he call me? When will he finally come around? Why does he disappear? Why doesn't he communicate with me? What's wrong with me that he does not put forth the effort for us to grow as a couple?", it breaks my heart and engages my ire.
I would ask WHY do you let an partner that is NOT your equal carry weight in your life. Surely, if they were your equal, you would be receiving the recognition you richly deserve.
Let us place our energies, ladies, into making the best and most vital years of our lives count. Let us mentor the younger women so they will know that they get better with age. Let us say "you are beautiful" to every single woman that we each know, and that they are loved and cherished unconditionally.
Our value is not in society's view of the Victoria's Secret walkway models, but in the wisdom, compassion, strength, conviction, creativity,and passion that we have to offer our world.
It is time to put our needs on the front burner, Dearest Sisters, and to scream from the roof tops, "we stand united in our faith in something greater than ourselves and in our growing value as aging women!"
To each and everyone of my sisters reading this right now:
You are beautiful, loved, cherished, bright, compassionate, wise, discerning, and perfect as you are right in this moment and in the next. I am grateful to have you in my life and empower you to seize this day, making it yours, and creating a world that is filled with loving and Divine Connections/resonance rather than dissonance.
Let us join forces, from faith to faith and heart to heart and create the kind of positive change in our world that empowers each and every one of us (female and male alike).
The battle is not over, ladies, let us wake up ready to be Spiritual Warriors each day. It starts with each of us, claiming and owning our own power and not giving it away to unworthy situations.
I love you and I believe in you!