I feel called to share with you some of the guiding Spiritual Principles for attracting healthy romantic love into your life:
1. Wanting versus needing: If you are lonely and need to be in a relationship, you will attract romantic partners that are needy as well. Come from a place of "needing" a relationship, where you are afraid to be alone, or you see your friends getting paired, moving in together, engaged, married, or staring a family, you are likely to attract a relationship that is frought with challenges, pitfalls, miscommunication, inconsistency, and dissatisfaction. You may be happy in the rose colored glasses phase, but once the patina has worn off, you are in a relationship that leaves you feeling empty and wishing that you had thought more about it before investing your energy into a partnership going nowhere, Coming from a place can often be manipulative, where you are coming in knowing that they are not whom you really want to be with, and with the premise that you can "change" them into being the person that you desire. You aren't really in love with them, but more the idea of how you can reshape them into what you envision. (oftentimes based on a relationship that dissolved and wanting it so badly you will do anything to prove that you are worthy of being loved)
On the flip side, if you are feeling confident in who you are, and not in a place of needing a relationship, the type of person that you attract is vastly different. You are coming from a place of wanting a romantic relationship. You know who you are, what you want, you are compassionate/empathetic, and are able to actively and effectively achieve your goals each day. You are successful! You will attract someone that is strong, confident, kind, honest, and sincere. They, too, are looking for someone that comes from a place of "wouldn't it be lovely to have someone with whom I can share my life."
2. Take your time: Jumping into a relationship based on just a few conversations or dates can lead to heartache. It takes awhile to really know another person, meeting their friends, going through the seasons and holidays with them.
*Are they financially responsible?
*Do they have a job?
*Do they have an education?
*Have they been married before? '
*Do they have kids?
*Are you religiously compatible?
*Do they want marriage, or a committed partnership?
*Do they want kids with you?
*Do you feel like you can be yourself with them?
*Are you compatible as introvert, extrovert, or amnavert?
*Are they honest?
*Do they speak well of their exes or call them crazy?
*Do they stay friends with their exes?
*Do they have a history of infidelity?
*Are they secretive about their phone, social media, and emails?
*Are your communication together clear, honest, kind, and frequent?
*How do the two of you resolve conflict?
Ask yourself these questions before you commit to a relationship with them, and as Spirit asked me to share, please do not rush into it, take your time! Time reveals the core of who they are, make an informed decision.
3. Avoid the rebound: If you are freshly out of a relationship, take some time to clear the energy of it or get the closure that you are needing to move forward. As an Ordained Reverend since 2001, I have spoken with many women and men that jumped from one relationship to the next to the next. In some cases, having 3 relationships in the period of 6 months! Each of them failing because they came from a place of loneliness and desperation, and the fear of facing the relationship that had hurt them so badly.
Seek closure before moving forward, face yourself each day, and make peace with you first. When you feel that your life is in a place of balance with body, mind, and spirit, and you have cleared the toxic energy from your life, you will attract someone that is also in a place of homeostasis.
4. Refrain from comparing your relationship to other couples: Every couple is different, and comparisons can lead to you feeling competitive or like your relationship is lack luster. Each pairing is unique, and accepting other couples rather than seeing them as better or worse than yourself can cause animosity.
Dear Ones, Spirit asks that you love yourself enough to rise above neediness, loneliness,and feeling like you will not be okay unless you are with a romantic partner. Reside in mindfulness, and be committed to balance in your life. The right romantic partner will be there, right in front of you, and it will feel Divinely timed.
Thank you for sharing this time together. I love you and I believe in you.
In Divine Love,